Recently, I blogged about the progress of my anti-bullying organization, Stopping the Madness Antibullying Foundation, http://www.stoppingthemadness.org. We are not only addressing bullying in schools, but we are actively developing a program to train parents and teachers to address bullying when it happens with respect to students’ privacy. Now, I know that some of you would say that if a student decides to bully doesn’t deserve privacy, but do we really want the victim to be put on the spot too? I have been researching material and the behaviors of students and you will not believe what parents and students revealed that most teachers don’t think twice about doing. Let’s break it down…
In addressing Andrew’s bullying, his SMAF assigned advocate and I spoke to him extensively about his daily school activities. Leading us through his day, we found several common denominators. One, the teachers are not really paying attention during the passing period. Two, the teachers have a habit of calling out a students’ issues in front of the class. Three, the teachers say that they want the parents more involved, but when a parent contacts them, there is almost guilt or defensiveness to their response. It was an “ah ha” moment. Could it be that in during the education, training, certification, and hiring process a breakdown of the increased responsibility for teachers is missing? Don’t get me wrong, I respect the teaching profession because I know that I would not be able to do what they do. There’s the flip side that a lot of teachers apply and are hired that don’t like kids or it was easier to get a teaching job than anything else with a Bachelor’s degree. That’s a problem to me because as a parent and an advocate, I know that those kinds of teachers don’t have a care for how children are educated or treated…it’s just a job. However, with the increase of bullying incidents in schools and homeschooling, we have to examine that common denominator and find a solution. As a parent, I try to work with the teachers and administrators to help my children succeed in school with the least amount of direct involvement. In other words, I am involved without stepping on toes or interfering with my children’s education, but lately, I am forced to step on toes because there’s something missing. As an advocate for SMAF, I am more involved in the education of all children and parent involvement. It is a necessity as I interview other children that have been bullied for my book, The Faces of Bullying, Vol. 1. What I found is that this younger generation just needs someone to have their back(www.breakingthelinebooks.com) at home and at school. Does that make them needy? In my opinion, no, that makes them a child. I have begun to meet with parents to understand their parenting goals and teach them how to be an effective advocate for their own children. My goal is to partner SMAF with school districts to provide a solution to the growing chasm between parents and teachers. The PTA just isn’t enough anymore.
In order for us to have a successful and driven young generation, parents and teachers need to have a bridge to cross without any communication becoming negative. Mutual respect is definitely necessary, and the question becomes with all of the negative press about students and teachers lately, how do we reinforce that respect in the classroom? Do we allow a teacher to berate a child in front of their peers just so that their peers can tease and harass that child about it later? Do we keep allowing bullies to get away with their actions because there is a fear of repercussion from the parent or just too much paperwork to deal with during class time? When corporal punishment was taken out of schools, did that tie teachers’ hands to what they think they need to do to make sure that all of the children in their care receive an education when they have a disruptive child in the same class? Is this method of teaching effective or does it create bullies and victims outside of the classroom? Can parents and community organizations provide more than moral support with the stressful lesson plans that teachers have to provide to their districts to ensure their employment? Can we provide other avenues of employment for those teachers that are just there for the paycheck?
All valid questions, but it’s going to take time, money, and patience to find the answers. I’m not saying that teachers are bad; please do NOT think that I am saying that. As parents, it is our job to make sure that the teachers that educate our children have as much support as possible from us. As teachers, parents entrust the care and minds of their children for seven hours of the day. It’s so important in this day and age to fall back to the old saying, “It takes a Village”.
Stopping the Madness Antibullying Foundation’s motto is “Stopping the Madness of Bullying, one client at a time.” At this time, we provide tele-counseling with State of Texas Certified Counselors, SMAF advocate certification training, motivational speeches by me, and a bullying support group. I created this foundation because as a parent, I was tired of the breakdown of communication between me and my children’s school. Please feel free to share this blog and donate to our cause because we have to start paying attention to what goes on in the “Village”.
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